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Transforming relationships with parents

  Todayt, I want to share some of the ways I invite The Marion Method to support transformation in my mentoring practice. I wonder if you’ve found yourself either: ❀ Valuing the feelings of the younger parts of you, and the painful feelings you felt growing up,...

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Using The Marion Method in our relationships with our bodies

Not only because having relationships with our Inner Loving Presences helps us feel a deep sense of loving presence and holding. Not only because speaking from our I, our Love and Will, has a profound effect on our feelings (I’m writing another post about that now!)...

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Why I don’t use the phrase, “I manifested it.”

  (And of course, if you resonate with that phrase and love using it, I deeply respect and honour your choice. This writing is more for people who also don’t resonate with it and would like to hear why I don’t!) In the Willingness Work that I offer, we understand...

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Transforming jealousy into willingness with The Marion Method

Since I’m creating a free into to The Marion Method and then opening my Marion Method Mentoring Training, I thought I would share some practical examples of how we can use the MM. This one is about transforming jealousy without spiritual bypassing nor repression of...

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Consciousness and The Room

  What do you believe about the nature of human consciousness and reality?   I believe we are each a Soul, a unique being, interconnected with all that is.   I believe that humanity has been on a journey of consciousness.   Three and a half...

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Not coercing, but listening and trusting

  The Room and the road: how me being tired yesterday and not coercing myself to take action relates to the Room.   The Room: a place for Conversations with Life has invited Mary and I on a profound journey.   You probably know that I am passionate...

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People will fight for the very system that tethered their own soul

  People will fight for the very system that tethered their own soul.   The politician who uses authoritarian politics   was once a three year old little boy being punished for wanting to choose.   The mother sending her daughter to a school where...

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My Journey with Will

  I’d love to tell you a bit about my journey with Will - sacred power. I wonder if you resonate, particularly if you’re a mother.   I used to feel deeply uncomfortable saying, “no” to anyone’s requests. So I’d say, “yes,” and end up depleted or resentful,...

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Reclaiming our sacred power as mothers

  Did you know that the following are all linked:   Your capacity and comfortableness at speaking a clear and calm, “no.”   Your sense of energy and aliveness in your body;   Your ability to take action in a way that brings flow and fulfilment;...

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My journey of reclaiming my power

      My journey with reclaiming my power: Freeing myself from the domination system through pregnancy, birth, parenting, learning and following my calling.   As a child and teenager, I was deeply quiet, trembly and introverted.   I also had,...

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Supporting our children to stay connected with their sacred power

  I believe we are being invited to shift the domination paradigm of the past 2000 years.   As mothers (and fathers), there are two key ways we can do this - to reclaim our sacred power, and to support our children in staying connected with their sacred...

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Are you being called to speak your Neo NO?

Hello dear friends,   I have been noticing something in the field in the past few days... I have suddenly felt a really strong calling to stand up and speak a big NEO NO to power-over and coercion - in particular, towards children and in the old-fashioned...

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We are being invited to change the paradigm

Hello dear friends! I FEEL SO PASSIONATELY ABOUT THIS!   I believe that on a psychospiritual level, we are being invited to question the domination/colonised culture that many of us live in. I believe we are invited to take stock of all the systems in place,...

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Is Gaia setting Loving Limits?

    If you’re familiar with my work, you know I talk about the power of Loving Limits.   We can set Loving Limits with a child when they are hurting others or themselves, or when they are using repression mechanisms to distract themselves form painful...

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The three causes of fear

  Have you been feeling fear recently? How about your child/ren?   Fear has been a familiar face to me; as a Highly Sensitive person, who was separated from my mother for 5 weeks after birth, in a Highly Sensitive and worried lineage, and in a culture and a...

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The history of feelings

  If you experienced not being heard, or not being understood, or not being loved just for being you as a child, you probably remember how painful that is.   Remembering how we felt as a child can be powerful to help us put ourselves in our child’s shoes and...

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I’m so grateful for Aware Parenting

  I’m so incredibly grateful for Aware Parenting. I feel moved as I look at old photos and reflect back on 18 years of parenting (this picture is from 10 years ago).   When I came across Aware Parenting when I was pregnant with my daughter 18 years ago, I...

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Sleep and Aware Parenting

  Sleep and Aware Parenting (you can see the map and chart HERE).   Sleep is a natural physiological mechanism.   If you have seen families in indigenous cultures, you might see something very different with sleep to what we see in colonised cultures....

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Reducing repression, aggression and agitation in children

  As parents, when we have access to a compassionate understanding that all children have feelings to express as a result of daily stresses and bigger challenges,   and we have enough emotional capacity to listen with loving presence to their feelings,...

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Playing before sleep

  Have you ever noticed that your child can become extra playful, just when you’re wanting them to wind down to sleep?   One of the many things I love about Aware Parenting is the deep trust it has in a child’s innate wisdom.   A child’s psyche, body...

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Loving Limits with physical symptoms

You’ve probably heard me talk about all the different ways we can use Loving Limits.   Loving Limits in general are when we are saying a Neo No to a certain behaviour, action or manifestation, whilst saying a compassionate yes to hear the feelings or needs that...

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How outrage becomes courage

A core element of Will-Work is increasing our capacity to stay present in our body whilst we are feeling rage, outrage and frustration.   This is so vital, because if we don’t feel connected with ourselves and our bodies when we’re feeling rage, outrage or...

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Conversations with Life

If you know my work, you know that a key part is the Conversations with Life.   The premise being that all of Life is a ’Thou’ rather than an ‘It’ and that we are in ever-present relationship with that Thou-ness.   Martin Buber wrote about I-It and I-Thou...

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Loving Limits with Social Media

  I’d love to share about my loving limits with social media scrolling.   Loving limits is a term I devised, which can be used in parenting, in other relationships, to our own behaviour and internally in our consciousness.   Loving limits are NOT;...

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Soul Callings

I remember being in my early 20’s, when I was training as a Psychospiritual Psychotherapist, that I first learnt about the idea that relationships can be a path for personal and spiritual growth.   Then, before becoming a mother 17 yeas ago, I realised that...

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Are You Procrastinating?

I wonder whether you’ve found yourself ‘procrastinating’ on something recently?   Perhaps you’ve been really wanting to:   Spend some more 1-1 time with your child/ren;   Create a website;   Declutter your house;   Do some inner healing,...

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True Resilence

This is a bit longer than my usual posts, and comes in three parts!   FACILITATING TRUE RESILIENCE IN CHILDREN THROUGH LISTENING TO CRYING AND RAGING AFTER STRESSFUL EVENTS   There is a lot of talk nowadays about how to help children be resilient.  ...

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Recreating Past Patterns

One of the key parts of my work is seeing how we re-create painful experiences that we didn’t ever get to heal from.   I believe we re-create and repeat these experiences SO THAT we can give loving compassion to those younger parts of us and the feelings we felt,...

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My Journey of Speaking My Voice

I’ve been on a long journey with speaking my voice.   At school and university, I very rarely ever spoke in class.   I remember starting my psychotherapy training at 24 and barely speaking a word in the group for the whole weekend.   I’ve come a long...

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How Do You Speak to Yourself?

WOULD YOU SAY THE WORDS YOU SAY TO YOURSELF TO YOUR BEST FRIEND?   I wonder if you’ve listened to the unfriendly words you say to yourself.   Those are words that you’ve internalised when you were growing up, from your family and culture.   The paradox...

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Not Feeling Alone with Our Feelings

When we are children, we don’t come inbuilt with the capacity to be present with our feelings.   We need the adults around us to be able to be present with our feelings, so that we internalise their loving presence and have the capacity to be present with...

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Inner Loving Money

Today, my 17 year old daughter and I went shopping.   I wonder how you feel when you spend money, or save money, or receive money?   From my Inner Loving Crew work - which is all about developing our relationships with our Inner Loving Mother, Inner Loving...

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My Mum

Today I had a powerful conversation with my mum.   We were chatting, and she said to me, “you’ll have to….”   I said, “I don’t have to…”   And she had some big upset feelings in response.   Some time ago in the past, we would have gone from this...

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Tangible ways for Self Compassion and Reparenting our Inner Children.

TANGIBLE WAYS FOR SELF COMPASSION AND INNER HEALING#1 My Inner Loving Mother loving me and my face when I put face oil on Welcome to this series of Tangible Ways for Self Compassion that I use to connect with my Inner Loving Crew (Inner Presences) and use the Inner...

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Psychospiritual Entrepreneurship Musings

  You are here for a reason.   You are unique and divine.   You have passions and purpose that are unique to you.   You have your own unique flavour.   I celebrate your divine soul.   You trail clouds of glory.   As we step forward, following the call of our soul, old...

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Reading the messages from Life brings a deep sense of belonging

Hello! I remember the first time that I really GOT that Life and I were having an intimate conversation. It was my 30th birthday bash, and I had a whole weekend of festivities planned, with friends coming from all different parts of England and from different parts of...

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Psychospiritual Entrepreneurship

Hello! Each of us has a divine spark; something that is unique in us that no-one else has. And that unique spark interacts with our life experiences, both inspiring and painful, to give us particular gifts that are also unique. There may be other people out there who...

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How to help your child be freer to be willing to cooperate with you!

Hello! Would you love to help your child to be freer to be willing to cooperate with you? In order to help them, we need to understand WHY they don't cooperate at times. From my perspective, a child's true nature has what I call the 3 'C's - they naturally want to...

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Stop hitting yourself with emotional sticks that lead to guilt, shame and other emotional bruises

Hello! This is for anyone who frequently judges, shoulds, have-to’s, and compares themselves. If you saw two children in a park, and one was hitting the other one with a stick, would you keep on watching? If the stick hitting was happening day in and day out, would...

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How babies and children learn to repress their feelings and our choices to respond

Hello! I'd like to start with:   My journey with feelings and repressing feelings. I’d love to share my own journey with this over the years.  When I trained as a psychospiritual psychotherapist in the 1990’s, I learnt all about feelings and addictions and...

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Three ways to help us respond effectively and empathically to hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing.

In this article, I’m going to start with the three reasons why it can be hard for us to respond empathically and effectively to our children when they’re hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing. And then I’m going to talk about 3 ways we can respond to these...

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Three things that babies and children need for restful sleep

Hello again! I did a FB live on Saturday, all about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective. You can watch it HERE. (I’m going to do a sleep Q and A FB live soon too; so if you have sleep and AwP questions, come along and ask on my FB page HERE.) I’ve also made a...

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Three things that help children to be free to follow their soul’s calling

Hello! Every day I've spent an hour writing my "Are you Willing?" book. And I love that yet again, as I find every time that I say yes to the creative process, that more clarity and cohesion comes. I'd love to share this with you. It's how willingness, listening to...

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A child’s willingness, The Willingness Practice, Aware Parenting and Nonviolent Communication

I LOVE finding links and connections between the paradigms that I love! And in my free A Week of Willingness last week, I learnt so much from my own practice and reading about the experiences of everyone who took part. In this article, I'm going to talk about the...

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Are you drawn to the Law of Attraction, but want an approach that includes compassionate healing of past feelings?

Hello! That was a big thing for me, to write that email yesterday! After I wrote it, I had a lie down for 10 minutes in my sun spot (it's winter here and those sun spots are so lovely!) And I could feel pain in some of my teeth. And straight away I knew what it was...

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As mothers, we are powerful beyond belief

Hello! I'm listening to Katy Perry's ROAR as I write this LONG post. It has three parts: jealousy sweet spots, my son's birthday, and my son's birth. The birth part is for you if you are planning on having another baby. PART ONE - JEALOUSY SWEET SPOTS. I've been...

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Using Aware Parenting with our inner children can have profound effects in the present

Yesterday I was putting some final technical touches to my Inner Loving Presence Process for Entrepreneurs Course, and I was testing it all out to see if it worked, but it didn't - when I tested the sign up process, I didn't get added.   So I did The Willingness...

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How are you with screens?

I wonder what your relationship with screens is like? I often find it helpful to ask these kinds of questions below, either during or after I've been on a screen. Asking them helps me make clearer and more aligned decisions. I wonder if they are helpful for you? 1. Am...

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Did you give up your childlike wonder?

I had a really BIG sweet spot come up for me last night. I shared something that was magical and important and beautiful for me - I've been having lots of experiences of synchronicity, and of seeing immediate and powerful outer changes in response to doing my...

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Our relationships with our parents affect our inner dialogue, which affects our outer relationships and Life.

Hello!   I've noticed a theme in quite a few women I've been working with recently, as they heal some of the things that happened to them with their parents. I wonder if you recognise any of these things in your parents. They weren't able to hear your feelings,...

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Do you like to do it yourself or receive support or both at different times?

Hello! I usually cut my own hair. I love the ease of not needing to book an appointment, or go anywhere. I love the spontaneity of wanting it cut, and doing it then and there. I love that I do it exactly how I like it. But yesterday, I suddenly had a desire to have...

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Our parents and our sweet spots and our child/ren and their sweet spots

Hello again! If your parents are around, when you spend time with them, do you ever have big feelings come up? The day before yesterday I spent a lot of hours with my Mum, and at the time I noticed myself doing an old repression mechanism that I haven’t done for years...

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How I helped my son heal from some of his birth experiences as a newborn

Hello again! I am so grateful for Aware Parenting for so many reasons. One that jumped out at me today, when I was making a meme about babies healing from their birthing experiences, was after my son was born. My son was posterior. My daughter had been posterior too,...

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The Three Types of Feelings

Hello again! I wrote an article about this a while ago, and now I've made a video! CLICK ON IT to watch it!   I love this way of seeing feelings! The three types are: 1. Needs Feelings. These are the feelings that we have when we have unmet needs - such as...

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The Handless Maiden, hands, and claiming our creativity and agency

Hello again!   I love the creative process.   When I was finding images to create my Respond Lovingly to your Calling Course, the idea came to use hands and flowers.   I thought of our hands and how they are so related to our creative expression in the...

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Ten reasons why your parenting is making a difference to our planet

Hello! Seeing this picture of Sunny with the world has inspired me to write about why I think our parenting is so valuable.   (And before I write more, I want to invite you to refrain from hitting yourself with emotional sticks. All the things that I talk about...

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Do you or your child ever get flooded in feelings?

Hello! Last week I got flooded by feelings of terror. What's my definition of flooding? It can often be when very old and big feelings from the past come up in the present AND either we don't have enough sense of emotional support - a sense of someone being with us,...

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What I’ve learnt about the soul’s calling and the entrepreneurial path

Hello! Ever since I first started my Psychosynthesis training, 24 years ago when I was 24, I've been fascinated by the Soul's journey. And recently, I've been reflecting on my own Soul's journey - all the callings, the interests and the decisions that I've said yes...

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Like The Velveteen Rabbit, I’m becoming more real!

Hello! Have you read The Velveteen Rabbit?  “Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.' 'Does it hurt?' asked...

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How are dentist visits for you and your child?

Hello! I was going to write a nice cosy email about how relaxed I've been feeling since I've been doing so much self-listening, but then last night and this morning I could feel feelings bubbling.  I have a dentist visit booked today - I've had tooth pain for a few...

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I learnt so much doing screen Present Time with my kids!

Hello! Thank you for all the replies I received to my email yesterday. Lots of you said things about my last comment, about how much I charge for my courses.  As I was driving along yesterday, a neon sign suddenly shone, "Be aware of your blind spots!" Yesterday I...

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The original cause of upper limiting and how we can prevent it in our children

Hello!   I wonder if you've heard of "The Upper Limit Problem"? Gay Hendricks wrote a book called, "The Big Leap", and in it he talked about the ULP ~ in his description, it's where we have a level of 'success' that we are comfortable with - whether that be about our...

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Rage vs. aggression ~ what’s the difference?

Hello again! Today my kids and I went for a lovely walk on the beach.     When we got home, we started setting up two new games we got - one is tennis on a stick and the other is football on a stick. My daughter was doing the lion's share, and my son was watching...

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Choosing love over fear in parenting

Hello! I remember years ago hearing people say, "Choose love over fear" and it never seemed tangible enough for me. "What does that actually look like in day to day life," I'd wonder. Nowadays I'm finding practical and tangible ways to put that into practice, in my...

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Staying connected around screens

Hello! A year ago, I was still grappling with screens and my kids. At times, they'd be looking at screens, and I'd think fearful thoughts about their future, and I'd feel scared and powerless. That didn't often go well, because I'd want them to get off immediately....

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What do feelings and connection have to do with each other?

Hello!Have you ever wondered why you're comfortable with feeling some feelings and not others?For example, you might feel comfortable with feeling curious, or sad, but you notice that when you start to feel anxious, you'll do anything to avoid it.Or perhaps you're...

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Two moments yesterday when I saw how much I’ve grown as a mother

Hello!I had two moments yesterday when I realised how much I've grown as a mother and human being.One was with my son, who's 10.We took my daughter, 14, to go bowling with the homeschooling teens group, at a town an hour away from where we live. And he had the...

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I find this the MOST important thing, as a parent of an older child and teen

Hello!It's my son's 10th birthday next week, and with a 14 year old daughter too, I find myself reflecting on how it's different now, with an older child and a teenager.What's different to looking after a baby and a younger child?Well, I find it much easier. Of course...

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How I’ve changed since I first started practicing Aware Parenting

Hello!If you are practicing Aware Parenting, I wonder how you have changed, and how your perspective about Aware Parenting has changed, since you started practising Aware Parenting?I remember clearly, more than fourteen years ago, when I started practising Aware...

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Guilt and shame are like hitting ourselves with emotional sticks

Hello! I wonder if you read my last email, which was all about differentiating between thoughts and feelings? I am so passionate about helping mothers free themselves from self-punishment, and I find myself wanting to write more about this.   I used to think that...

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Our relationship with ourselves affects how our children feel with us

Hello! One of my original reasons for wanting to help mothers was because I saw how much my own Mum's inner dialogue affected her and how she responded to me. My Mum is one of the most generous, giving, loving people I know ~ and so filled with harsh self-talk. The...

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How comfortable are you with joy?

Hello! How comfortable are you with joy, delight, exhilaration, ecstasy and love? This week I discovered how comfortable I was with all of these (-: A few days ago, my amazing mentor Jana Kingsford showed us a video she'd made. As always, she invited us to play with...

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How would you feel if you trusted that your child chose you?

Hello! Last week a book jumped out at me from my bookshelf. It was by James Hillman, and I hadn't read it for 20 years. And I really enjoyed being reminded of the idea that each of us chooses our parents, to help us become who we are here to be. And although there are...

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The simplest parenting tip!

Hello!How are you?I gave a talk on Aware Parenting to a local group of mums and dads last weekend.I so loved it!And I realised that one of the simplest parenting suggestions I have is to put ourselves into our child's shoes.Let me give you a few examples.As anyone who...

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My deepest hurts are the source of my creative impulse

Hello! How are you? I've been wanting to write for ages, but I got immersed in a new creative project (I'll tell you more about that at the end!)And what I've seen, yet again, is that my biggest sweet spots are also the places from where my desire to create...

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Making meaning of the past

I had two moving and significant moments this week, and I'd like to share them with you. I'm feeling so in love with my life right now. I finally have the sense of living in alignment with why I'm here, and my heart feels alive with energy and enthusiasm and gratitude...

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Present Time

Hello! I wonder if you read my letter on Present Time a while ago? Perhaps you even joined the Facebook group that I set up for a Present Time Masterclass. You can read the letter here. The Facebook group is here. How are you finding Present Time? Are you noticing any...

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Do you express your creativity?

I've been loving exploring the concept of creativity. Much of it inspired my the courses I'm doing with Jana Kingsford. And for me, these so relate the masculine and feminine principles, and the inner marriage. Creativity is like the inner marriage for me. The inner...

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The Internet as a vehicle for conscious evolution

The Internet as a Vehicle for Consciousness and Evolution Last year I read a book called Reality is Broken, by Jane McGonigal.  I found most of it interesting, in places challenging, and didn’t agree with it all. However, I felt deeply inspired and excited reading the...

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Screens for us and our kids

Hello! If you have any screens in your home, including an iPhone or Android phone, then you will be making choices about how you use them. For example, whether to get an alert when you receive a text, or an email, or a Facebook message. We make choices about our...

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Just Do It!

Hello! I wanted to share with you what has helped me make that shift - from someone who has virtually never got out of bed early, to someone who happily jumps out of bed at first light. It's all about will. If you're like me and have spent lots of years working on...

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The Times They Are A Changing

Hello! This title came to me as I was getting out of bed this morning.  I didn't even know the Bob Dylan song (I'm listening to it as I write to you!), but I certainly knew the title, and it seems so apt to me.  I see that the times really are a-changin'. I believe...

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Honouring Ourselves as Mothers

Hello again! I'm listening to The Pretenders' Hymn to Her as I write, which seems apt! I feel a deep sense of excitement in offering my Love Being a Mother online course to you. It feels so deeply connected to why I'm here and what I'm doing on the planet! The main...

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Doing What I Love Makes Me a Happier Mother

Hello again! I'm so much happier as a mother recently since I've been doing what I really love. And what I love at the moment is creating all the things I need to create to run online courses.  It's really meeting my need for creative expression. This is helping me in...

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Loving Limits

Hello again, I am so loving writing every day. I've been wanting to write more for so long, and to find that I can get up early every morning and write (after I've taken the dog for a walk) is such a deep pleasure for me!  I've been wanting to write a new article...

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Are Your Needs Notorious or Nectar?

Hello! (I wrote this in January 2015!) It's super-scary for me to do this, but I'm doing a webcast this coming Sunday morning/Saturday afternoon evening (depending where you are in the world). Free webcast masterclass: Nourish your Needs (without neglecting your...

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Love Being a Mother Course

Hello! The Love Being a Mother Course starts tomorrow! I'm so excited! (I wrote this post back in January!) If you want more information about it, including watching a short video I made about it, click here! So, I wonder what you are needing to listen to yourself and...

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Growing Up in One Direction

Hello! How are you? Last week, my 13-year-old daughter and I traveled a couple of hours to go to a One Direction concert. (If you haven't heard of 1D, the are a group of 5 British boys who are loved by teenage girls all over the world!) It was their stadium tour,...

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Get Free From Guilt!

I'd love to tell you about my free course. It's a four day email and video course called "Get Rid of Guzzling Guilt". I created it because it is my passion to help encourage mothers to shift out of old ways of thinking that create guilt, and move to more modern and...

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Living Aware Parenting

Hello, I want to offer you my free four day Get Free From Guzzling Guilt course It consists of four, daily, emails, with a video that goes with each email. It is such a passion of mine to inspire, encourage and support mothers to free themselves from guilt so that...

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It was my son’s 9th birthday this week, and I’d love to share a few insights and learnings I’ve had about birthdays!

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Birthday Presence

It was my son's 9th birthday this week, and I'd love to share a few insights and learnings I've had about birthdays! The birthday. And NINE!!! Where do the years go! That's one thing I want to offer! I know that sometimes those early years with small children can be...

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I believe that as human beings, we are designed to keep becoming more. 

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Deep Healing Through Parenting

I believe that as human beings, we are designed to keep becoming more.  We constantly search for opportunities to heal from past experiences that are preventing us from being all that can be. Our children are like this, and so are we. If our child has a really big...

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Have you noticed that, when you give yourself regular Present Time, that it accumulates and you have a sense of more to give your child/ren?

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Self-Present Time Accumulates

Have you noticed that, when you give yourself regular Present Time, that it accumulates and you have a sense of more to give your child/ren? I've been noticing that a lot lately! For example, after Mothers' Day and my birthday, when I basically gave myself Present...

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During my Living Aware Parenting Course, I came up with a process that I am finding really profound. 

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Power Portal Process

During my Living Aware Parenting Course, I came up with a process that I am finding really profound.  I'd love to share an experience of me using it just a few days ago. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family life is pretty harmonious nowadays....

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I’ve been exploring the issue of power in parenting for some while, and the more I explore it, the more important I think it is to explore!
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Power-over, powerlessness and true power in parenting

I've been exploring the issue of power in parenting for some while, and the more I explore it, the more important I think it is to explore! I believe that our relationship to power and powerlessness is related to what we could call our own inner feminine and...

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 I want to ask you what you want on Mothers’ Day.

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What is Your Ideal Mothers’ Day?

 I want to ask you what you want on Mothers' Day. Over the years, facilitating various groups for mothers, I have heard from many mothers who have felt disappointed or sad on Mothers' Day, because they haven't received what they really want. I so want you to get what...

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When I started Aware Parenting, I thought it was something I could “do” to my daughter. 

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Parenting is a Path of Transformation

When I started Aware Parenting, I thought it was something I could "do" to my daughter.  I thought I would listen to all of her feelings, meet all of her needs, and she would grow up completely free from all control patterns, completely in touch with all of her...

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My children and I had another fun Present Time yesterday. 

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The Aware Parenting Journey

My children and I had another fun Present Time yesterday.  It followed a beautiful day of lots of hanging out, chatting, and relaxing. Then I gave myself an hour of Present Time whilst they were happily playing together. I read an English romance novel, which I really...

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Aware Parenting has helped me transform.

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Aware Parenting has Helped Me Transform

Aware Parenting has helped me transform.   When I came across Aware Parenting, I was pregnant with my now-13-year-old daughter.r. I had already spent the previous decade in weekly therapy; with 5 of those years training as a Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist. And...

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Over the 13 years that I have been practising Aware Parenting, it has transformed the way I live my life. Aware Parenting isn’t just about our children; why?

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Aware Parenting isn’t just about our children!

Over the 13 years that I have been practising Aware Parenting, it has transformed the way I live my life. Aware Parenting isn't just about our children; why? Because if we want to listen to our child's feelings, we need to listen to our feelings. Because if we want to...

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I would love to tell you about Present Time with my 13 year old daughter the other day!

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Present Time with Teenagers

I would love to tell you about Present Time with my 13 year old daughter the other day! We often avoid Present Time with each other - and often when we do it, she will often ask me to do things like sit and do a crossword with her. (Present Time is the term I give to...

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There are many different perspectives on thumb-sucking, and I’d love to share an Aware Parenting way of looking at it with you.

 

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Thumb-sucking from an Aware Parenting perspective

There are many different perspectives on thumb-sucking, and I’d love to share an Aware Parenting way of looking at it with you.   Before I start, I’d like to include a preface - that I long for deep self-acceptance for all of us parents. It is so easy for us to...

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HypnoBirthing

by Marion Badenoch Rose, PhD I had been terrified of giving birth. My own difficult birth had led me to research birth and babies and receive therapy, yet the fear remained. When I came across HypnoBirthing on the Internet it was as though a light went on inside - I...

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Babe in Arms, Crying to Heal

More than a quarter of a century ago, Aletha Solter, Ph.D., developed a form of attachment parenting known as Aware Parenting, yet many parents and professionals remain unaware of the significant contributions she has to offer. Aware Parenting encompasses practices...

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Sunny’s calmbirth

Four humpback whales appeared just 50 metres off the coast of Cape Byron, on their way north to give birth. My husband, my daughter and I walked up to the lighthouse to celebrate my husband’s birthday. I was 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant, and my surges came irregularly...

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Nourishing Peace in Our Children

I felt delighted to read Tony Narracott’s letter about Lou Beaumont’s photo of Lana Rose at the peace pole. As Lana’s mum, my aim has been to nourish her natural peaceful essence through Aware Parenting. As an Aware Parenting Instructor, I have learned that hurtful...

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Chiara Rossetti – Fun Mum

Hello to all! I have been thinking about fun and lightness lately, because so many of us, parents especially, seem to forget to laugh. We get all caught up in daily life. I found my inner clown and was a bit surprised (shocked!) at my ability to be a complete and...

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Babies have feelings too!

I read Robin Grille’s article (byron child June-Aug 2006) with delight. As a parent of a four year old, I relish increasing the authentic connection between us. Robin Grille talked about a child’s healing and empowerment when his hurt, sadness, or rage (tantrums) is...

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Christmas Presence

Were you on the look out for just the exact present for your child? How would you feel if you heard that you already have it, and that it didn’t cost anything? Surprised? Racking your brains? ……… It’s Your Presence!!!! Babies and children thrive on connection with...

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The Gift of Presence

Coming up to Christmas time, there’s lots of focus on presents. But what about presence? - The presence of a parent looking into the eyes of her child. The presence of a baby seeing the world for the first time. The presence of a child as he engages in learning...

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Barbara’s story

My journey with aware parenting started before my daughter was born. I attended a Calmbirth workshop and was excited to be ready to bring her into the world without drugs or medical intervention. My Calmbirth booklet had Marion’s description of Aletha Solter’s ‘The...

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Lara and Zach’s story

My son Zach's sleep problems began at eight weeks of age, after he was immunised. Athough previously a great sleeper, since that time, he woke every hour - occasionally every two hours - and sometimes as frequently as every 20-30 minutes. I tried routines, rocking,...

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Hannah and Adaya’s story

Adaya (5 months old) also has a breast feeding control pattern, from me of course!, that I am working on releasing. Not too long ago, probably about 2 months ago, she did start waking every 2 hours again. There was a lot of stress in the house (due to relationship...

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Marita’s story

I am noticing changes already in Eli. by supporting him to cry …. He gives more eye contact, seems happier in himself. I am more relaxed too and enjoying him more. Mealtimes are more relaxed and he's eating more surprisingly I bring more good news... We are continuing...

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Susan’s story

My baby cried this morning. He cried and cried and cried. Close to an hour of constant heart felt tears. He squirmed his tiny body next to mine on our family bed. He cried hard, tears streaming down his face. He pushed his head firmly into the pillow and thrashed his...

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Vanessa’s story

I stumbled across the Aware Parenting philosophy when my first child, Jake, was around 10 months old. I was looking for answers and I found them! I was having problems with Jake frequently waking in the night and crying. I found that dummies and bottles of milk...

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Jen’s story

I have been practising aware parenting to the best of my ability since Annabelle was under 1 year old. The best thing about aware parenting for me is having the presence to sit with my crying child & acknowledge that she is sad & crying. (It’s not easy because in my...

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Chiara’s story

I practice Aware Parenting with my two children and find it so effective. To me, it is a natural follow-on from the attachment parenting I practice. It is my belief that this approach is so respectful and loving because it allows for the acceptance of all feelings to...

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Mandi’s story

I am far from the perfect mum. I am a single parent, so all responsibilty for my child is on my shoulders - which sometimes feels like quite a weight! I have always set firm expectations and been rigid in keeping boundaries. Some people have commented that maybe I...

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Veronica’s story

I read The Aware Baby whilst I was pregnant with our daughter Freja. It wasn’t until Freja was 10 days old that she became very unsettled. I was experiencing the following problems with Freja: She would cry for hours in the evenings for no apparent reason. Feeding was...

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Olivia’s story

It was really good to know that we are on the right track with the aware parenting philosophy and reassuring to know that we should just continue to do what we're doing and always trust our instincts. After reading parts of the book yesterday (The Aware Baby) ....when...

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Michelle and Craig’s story

My introduction to Aware Parenting (The Aware Baby) was from our CalmBirth handbook we were given at the end of our weekend workshop. Our instructor had included summaries of each section of the book in his handbook. It resonated hugely with me. It made such sense. It...

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Caroline’s story

Hi Marion I have been reading your article Understanding Children's Feelings and it has elucidated my own need to express feelings with crying or at least, talking. I can totally recognize in myself my unexpressed emotions causing lack of sleep, irritability,...

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Bronwyn’s story

This story begins in November 2003 when my eldest daughter Julia was just 14 months old. It had been a few months that she had started biting and hitting and becoming very upset if I would be too slow in getting her breakfast ready each morning. I noticed that she...

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Binnie’s story

I first heard of aware parenting through a friend while pregnant with my son who is now 2 years old. She was helping to promote Aletha Solter's Australian tour and I was lucky enough to attend a one day workshop. Having enjoyed the workshop, I bought the book which I...

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Varieties of slings and carriers

Types of slings and carriers Wraparounds or wraps A wraparound is a length of fabric tied around the parent and baby in many different ways – on the front, side, and back, with either one- or two- shouldered carries (the latter gives comfort for the adult’s shoulders...

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Saying “No”

I used to think that being loving meant always saying, “yes.” I am increasingly learning that saying, “No” can also express love – for myself, in my relationships, and for my children. Permissive Parenting; avoiding saying “no” I’ve always veered on the side of...

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Setting loving limits

In one way of looking at parenting, we can label it as either permissive, authoritarian, or democratic: Permissive (meeting their child’s needs and not our own) - Authoritarian (meeting our needs and not our child’s). With Aware Parenting, we strive for something in...

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Our own control patterns

Recently I have seen so clearly how my own emotional state as a mother has a huge influence on my children. Lately, I’ve been happy, present, playful, and calm. But just a few days ago something was obviously bubbling. My son had a friend over and I decided to...

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Nourishing ourselves as mothers

This week, as a prelude to Mother’s Day here in Australia, I’ve been enquiring into my feelings and thoughts about this day. I’ve been enjoying doing this amongst the community of mothers on the Parenting with Presence yahoo forum. I’ve also been listening to The...

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Presence, eye contact and crying

There is an interesting relationship between eye contact, presence, feelings, and protection from feelings. When we go for eye contact with a baby or child who is upset and protecting themselves from feelings, this helps them know that we really are there with them,...

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Present Time

On the Parenting with Presence yahoo group, we have recently been talking about Present Time. In both Aware Parenting (www.awareparenting.com) and Hand in Hand Parenting (Parenting by Connection) (www.handinhandparenting.org), Aletha Solter and Patty Wipfler talk...

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Crying – about the present or the past?

back to home Crying - about the present or the past? One of the main things about Aware Parenting and other similar parenting paradigms, such as those by Patty Wipfler and Lawrence Cohen, is a different way of looking at crying. Often crying is seen at face value – a...

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The development of our own control patterns

Have you noticed that your levels of presence have varied considerably as your child has been at different ages? I have. When I was pregnant, I gave up things. Like chocolate. And sugar. And when my daughter was born 12 years ago, I was determined (notice the use of...

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Are control patterns inevitable?

When I first started Aware Parenting with my daughter, over 10 years ago now, my aim was to bring her up so she was totally free from any control patterns. My thoughts about control patterns have changed somewhat in the ten intervening years! And now I see that Aware...

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Three Steps Back Home

I love to contribute to other parents.  So when I find ways to make my life more wonderful, I want to share them with you! I’ve gradually been feeling more connected with myself and my children after being so busy and reactive recently. This week, I had several hours...

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The Dual Nature of Parenting

This week I’ve been thinking about the dual process that goes on in parenting. How are are with our children, from when they are babies in the womb, has profound implications on the way their life unfolds.  How we mirror them, how we perceive them, becomes how they...

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Becoming Less Divided and More Whole

I have been really enjoying re-immersing myself in Psychosynthesis, which is the form of Psychotherapy that I trained and practised in for most of my twenties. Since it is not a very well-known way of looking at things, I thought I might share it with you in case you...

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Healing Through Feeling

This time last weekend I was at the Uplift Festival, a yearly event which is the highlight of my year.   Speakers such as Bruce Lipton, Patch Adams and Joan Borysenko are joined by musicians from around the world, such as Deva Premal and Miten, poets such as Luka...

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You Really Can Get Your Needs Met

I’ve just returned from three days in Sydney, where I had a wonderful time; going on home visits to families, facilitating some Loving Being a Mother groups, and spending time with two of my dearest friends - one of whom has just had a baby, and the other whom was...

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Awareness and Will

 I'm on a roll and so enjoying getting up really early, writing and creating, whilst listening to inspiring music. I wanted to share with you what has helped me make that shift - from someone who has virtually never got out of bed early, to someone who happily jumps...

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The Times They are A-Changin’

This title came to me as I was getting out of bed this morning.  I didn't even know the Bob Dylan song (I'm listening to it as I write to you!), but I certainly knew the title, and it seems so apt to me.  I see that the times really are a-changin'. I believe that we...

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So many of us as women turn to food to avoid feeling our feelings.  I wonder whether you ever do?

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Do You Eat to Avoid Your Feelings?

So many of us as women turn to food to avoid feeling our feelings.  I wonder whether you ever do? We want sweetness, nourishment, nourishment, and fulfilment, and food can be a way we try to get that. Or we want to escape feelings of sadness, loneliness, frustration,...

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I wonder if the title caught your attention.  It came to me this week.  I know that when I am aligned, when I’m caring for myself, when I’m deeply connected with my children and they are deeply connected to themselves, life is heaven.  There is love, there is joy, there is a wonder in being alive.

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Mothering Heaven and Hell

I wonder if the title caught your attention.  It came to me this week.  I know that when I am aligned, when I'm caring for myself, when I'm deeply connected with my children and they are deeply connected to themselves, life is heaven.  There is love, there is joy,...

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Playing feels fun, liberating and joyful, AND many of the games that we play with our children have effects far beyond connecting and having fun.

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Attachment Play

Playing feels fun, liberating and joyful, AND many of the games that we play with our children have effects far beyond connecting and having fun. Children play and laugh to connect, understand their world, release uncomfortable feelings from their bodies, and heal...

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One of the many things I love about Aware Parenting is that it can make breast-feeding even more wonderful for mother and baby.

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How Aware Parenting Can Make Breastfeeding Even More Enjoyable for Baby and Mother

  One of the many things I love about Aware Parenting is that it can make breast-feeding even more wonderful for mother and baby.   If babies have had some challenges in birth, then they may not feed easily. They may scream when on the breast, or clamp down...

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For more years than I can count, I had longed to be adored.  Yet with each relationship I had with a man, the initial adoration had very quickly shifted into something else.

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Are You Willing to Be Adored?

For more years than I can count, I had longed to be adored.  Yet with each relationship I had with a man, the initial adoration had very quickly shifted into something else. I had blamed them, or blamed the honeymoon effect, or blamed myself for not being adorable. ...

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I love beauty!  I love having beautiful toys for my children, having a beautiful home, and beautiful clothes.

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The Power of Beauty

I love beauty!  I love having beautiful toys for my children, having a beautiful home, and beautiful clothes. In the past, buying new clothes was a control pattern for me - in other words, it was a repetitive way to stop myself from feeling uncomfortable feelings.  I...

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Like many women, I have had an interesting relationship with power, and finding my own feminine power and authority.

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The Myth of Losing Power as Women

Like many women, I have had an interesting relationship with power, and finding my own feminine power and authority. A few years ago I had a facilitating session; and although it seemed to be about money, it soon turned out to be about beauty and power.  The old...

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I remember the day clearly.  My son was two and a half, and my daughter was seven.  I had pictures of them on my website looking joyful and calm.  I was full of happiness about how I was being as a mother.

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Not Letting Ourselves Shine

I remember the day clearly.  My son was two and a half, and my daughter was seven.  I had pictures of them on my website looking joyful and calm.  I was full of happiness about how I was being as a mother. I’d been practicing Aware Parenting since my daughter was a...

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I shall never forget one particular experience of Facilitating.  We saw how everything in this woman’s life life: her body; her feelings; her thoughts; and her relationships with others ~ all were a harmonious whole, acting in synchrony with her deepest beliefs.  This was news for her, as she had been seeing the symptoms in each area as being something “wrong”.  What a different perspective it was for her to see how they were all acting to help her.

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Our Self-System works perfectly

I shall never forget one particular experience of Facilitating.  We saw how everything in this woman's life life: her body; her feelings; her thoughts; and her relationships with others ~ all were a harmonious whole, acting in synchrony with her deepest beliefs.  This...

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I’m passionate about celebrating women, and our bodies, and all the gifts we have to give.

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Evolving as a woman

I’m passionate about celebrating women, and our bodies, and all the gifts we have to give. I’m passionate about being part of a community of women that have moved past old ways that women have connected, old ways that relied on blame, victimhood and sharing pain. I am...

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It has become somewhat of a cliche nowadays to talk about the importance of being consciously aware of death in order to fully live.  However, there is undoubted truth that we are all mortal beings, and that knowing this in our bones gives us impetus to seize each day with gentle hands.

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Life and death

It has become somewhat of a cliche nowadays to talk about the importance of being consciously aware of death in order to fully live.  However, there is undoubted truth that we are all mortal beings, and that knowing this in our bones gives us impetus to seize each day...

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I’m forever grateful to my dad for telling me about his deja-vu and synchronistic experiences.  It was a kind of joke in our family; as he would repeat his experiences over and over again.

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The Interconnectedness of all things

I’m forever grateful to my dad for telling me about his deja-vu and synchronistic experiences.  It was a kind of joke in our family; as he would repeat his experiences over and over again. He’d begin telling the story of when he was longing to go home at the end of...

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How are you with your feelings?  Do you feel them bubbling in your body?  Do you cry much?  Laugh out loud?  Are you happy with your relationship with your feelings?

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To feel or not to feel? That is the question.

How are you with your feelings?  Do you feel them bubbling in your body?  Do you cry much?  Laugh out loud?  Are you happy with your relationship with your feelings? My relationship with feelings have taken many twists and turns over the years.  During my twenties, I...

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As babies, we are born with the natural ability to flow from state to state – from curiosity to wonder to amazement, to frustration to overwhelm to confusion, to surprise to fear to sadness to grief to joy, and back to curiosity.  Babies simply flow from one state to another, fully, with their bodies.

Most of us adults have learnt to constrict natural movement.  Dulled down and frozen from the extremes, we stop feelings when they get too joyful or curious or playful or scary or grief-filled.

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Feelings, desires and aliveness

As babies, we are born with the natural ability to flow from state to state - from curiosity to wonder to amazement, to frustration to overwhelm to confusion, to surprise to fear to sadness to grief to joy, and back to curiosity.  Babies simply flow from one state to...

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Sometimes we are deeply connected with our feelings, needs, and desires, and sometimes we prevent ourselves from being connected with our feelings, needs and desires.  And sometimes the two can look quite similar.

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Desire, or disconnection?

Sometimes we are deeply connected with our feelings, needs, and desires, and sometimes we prevent ourselves from being connected with our feelings, needs and desires.  And sometimes the two can look quite similar. Desires.  How do you feel when you hear this word?  I...

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If we repeatedly decide what to do based on what we think we “should” do, or what we believe will take us a step further, we miss out on those magical moments when we follow a whim or a desire and find out later that that was a central piece of the next step of our lives.

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Trusting what we want

I’m love trusting the ebbs and flows of life.... Like you, I have many interests, activities and things to do in my life. I am a homeschooling single mum of two children; I love to write articles and books; I make my own website; I offer consultations and sessions for...

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Marion Rose, Ph.D