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Why I value awareness and choice with words

You might have noticed how much I choose to think, write and speak particular words and not others!

In this post, I’m going to share why I do this, and why this compassionate awareness and choice is a part of the Love and Will and Soul Identity components of The Marion Method.

Words have a powerful effect on our consciousness.

Words are a way that cultural conditioning is passed down.

Words are a way we can identify with lovingness and willingness, with deep and compassionate self-connection and intrinsic power.

Words are a way that we can release ourselves from cultural conditioning.

WORDS AND WILL AND INTRINSIC POWER

Words have been used to exert power over others in ways that are internalised and become used to exert power over ourselves.

The phrases; “you should” / “you have to” / “you’re allowed” and “you can’t” and many more words and phrases are powerful ways of using power-over others.

They are such powerful spells that we internalise that and use power-over ourselves in the form of “I should” / “I have to” / I”m allowed” / “I can’t. This is how these forms of cultural conditioning are passed down.

These words around will trick us into believing that we aren’t powerful.

But because we ARE intrinsically powerful and because our true nature IS Love and Will, we can release ourselves from these spells and decolonise ourselves.

WORDS AND LOVE AND INTRINSIC WHOLENESS

Words have also been used to shame others, again in ways that are internalised, so that we continue to shame ourselves.

The words and phrases, “good” and “bad” and “naughty” and “misbehaviour” and “you should be ashamed of yourself,” are all ways used to trick people into believing that there is something intrinsically “wrong” with them. And again, this cultural conditioning is easily passed down.

These words are spells which trick us into believing that we aren’t whole and complete and loved and loveable exactly as we are (even finding words to express this concept without domination culture language can be tricky!)

We can wake up from the spells and gradually internalise a new, loving inner dialogue of deep self-compassion and compassion for others.

WORDS AND BODY AND MIND AND SOUL

Our use of words determines where we are locating ourselves.

When we say, “I feel frustrated,” we are inviting embodiment and connection with ourselves.

When we say, “You are annoying,” this disconnects us from ourselves and the other.

Do you feel the difference in where your consciousness is located in your body when you say:

“It’s astonishing,”

compared to when you say,

“I feel astonished”?

What about when you are asking someone about how they feel?

Do you notice a difference in how connected with yourself and the other you feel when you say,

“How did it feel?”

compared to

“How do you feel?”

Remember, this is not about ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, because that’s the domination paradigm.

This is an invitation to notice:

How we feel when we use different words;

Where we notice our consciousness is located in our bodies when we say something;

How connected with ourselves and others we feel;

How connected with our lovingness and willingness we feel;

Our power to choose what words we think and speak and write.

WORDS AND IDENTITY

When we say, “I” we are talking from the place in us that we are identified with in that moment.

We can identify with our thoughts (even if we’re using the word “feel”) eg. “I feel disappointed with you,” is a thought-judgment (I wrote about this a few days ago).

Or we can identify with our embodied experience, and be centred in our Soul, our I, which is Love and Will – in other words, we can be much more connected with our felt experience, our lovingness and our innate power.

As an example around will and power – you’ve probably heard me talk about the profound difference between saying,

“It’s not okay,”

which centres ourselves outside our bodies, and is a judgment,

and

“I’m not willing for,”

which centres ourselves profoundly in the centre of our consciousness and our body, in our willingness channel, which is where our life energy and Life’s energy flow.

I invite you to play with words.

They are powerful tools of consciousness.

What words and phrases do you feel called to play with?

There will be a whole module on language in The Marion Method Mentoring Training.

Big love xoxo