Stop hitting yourself with emotional sticks that lead to guilt, shame and other emotional bruises

Stop hitting yourself with emotional sticks that lead to guilt, shame and other emotional bruises

by | Oct 30, 2017 | Compassion, Get Free From Guilt, Inner Loving Mother, Inner Loving Presence Process, Loving Limits, The Willingness Practice

Hello! This is for anyone who frequently judges, shoulds, have-to’s, and compares themselves. If you saw two children in a park, and one was hitting the other one with a stick, would you keep on watching? If the stick hitting was happening day in and day out, would...
How babies and children learn to repress their feelings and our choices to respond

How babies and children learn to repress their feelings and our choices to respond

by | Oct 9, 2017 | Attachment Play, Aware Parenting, Aware Parenting and Breast-feeding, Aware Parenting and Sleep, Aware Parenting for ourselves, Babies, Control Patterns, Crying, Feelings, Feelings, Introduction to Aware Parenting, Loving Limits, Mirroring, Needs and Control Patterns, Nourish Your Needs, Repression, Repression mechanisms

Hello! I’d like to start with:   My journey with feelings and repressing feelings. I’d love to share my own journey with this over the years.  When I trained as a psychospiritual psychotherapist in the 1990’s, I learnt all about feelings and addictions and...
Three ways to help us respond effectively and empathically to hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing.

Three ways to help us respond effectively and empathically to hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing.

by | Sep 26, 2017 | Aggression, Attachment Play, Aware Parenting, Connection, Loving Limits and Attachment Play, Loving Limits, Presence and Present Time, Present Time, Rage, Tantrums

In this article, I’m going to start with the three reasons why it can be hard for us to respond empathically and effectively to our children when they’re hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing. And then I’m going to talk about 3 ways we can respond to these...
Our parents and our sweet spots and our child/ren and their sweet spots

Our parents and our sweet spots and our child/ren and their sweet spots

by | May 16, 2017 | Aware Parenting, Aware Parenting for ourselves, Evolving as an Aware Parent, Feelings, Inner Loving Presence Process, Loving Limits, Repairing connection with our child, The balance of attention

Hello again! If your parents are around, when you spend time with them, do you ever have big feelings come up? The day before yesterday I spent a lot of hours with my Mum, and at the time I noticed myself doing an old repression mechanism that I haven’t done for years...
The Three Types of Feelings

The Three Types of Feelings

by | Apr 12, 2017 | Aware Parenting, Aware Parenting for ourselves, Babies, Connected Crying, Crying, Feelings, Feelings, Healing From the Past, Inner Loving Presence Process, Loving Limits, Nourish Your Needs, Tantrums, Understanding our children

Hello again! I wrote an article about this a while ago, and now I’ve made a video! CLICK ON IT to watch it!   I love this way of seeing feelings! The three types are: 1. Needs Feelings. These are the feelings that we have when we have unmet needs –...