Hello!
(I wrote this in January 2015!)
It’s super-scary for me to do this, but I’m doing a webcast this coming Sunday morning/Saturday afternoon evening (depending where you are in the world).
Free webcast masterclass: Nourish your Needs (without neglecting your children).
Why am I doing it even though I’m scared?
It’s because I talk to so many beautiful mothers, wanting to be the most present and empathic mother they can be, yet putting their other needs right at the bottom of this list.
It’s my passion and my purpose to help inspire and encourage mothers to value our needs more, and to collectively shift our cultural beliefs about our needs, desires and passions as mothers.
AND I know that sometimes those beliefs are really ‘sticky‘ – of course, since we have been passing them down, from mother to daughter for generations upon generations. For many important reasons. To fit in. To feel safe. To protect ourselves in the prevailing culture.
However, now we live in a different world. Our culture actually needs us to change these core beliefs about our needs.
Our daughters and sons need to learn to relate to their own needs, desires, passions and feelings in different ways.
Why can it be scary sometimes to really value our needs? Why is it often easier to blame our partner, or ex-, or parents, or the government, or not having enough time or money or support?
Because for so many generations, it really could be a dangerous thing to listen to ourselves deeply as women. The witch burnings that occurred over hundreds of years, and which killed millions of women, are one example.
Since I have been planning to do this webinar, I have felt scared. And then I woke up in the middle of the night the other night, in pain with a tooth infection. As I step up to speak the importance of us as women listening to our needs, old beliefs come to try to protect me.
But I’m simply not willing to listen to those old beliefs any more.
I believe that listening to our needs, nurturing them, seeing them as nectar, has a profound effect on our children.
I’d love to share a couple of examples with you in my own life.
You would have noticed the big increase in newsletters (or love letters) that I’ve been sending you recently.
Since I’ve been getting up early every morning and writing for 2 hours before my children get up, it’s suddenly been effortless to do 30 minutes of present time with each of them each day. And I have seen a massive difference in them since I have started doing that. My son, who for so long was disconnected, quick to react, and regularly hitting, has gone back to how he used to be – happy, relaxed, warm, connected, cuddly, and did I mention happy!? It is a transformation! And my daughter is so much happier and warmer too.
My meeting my needs for creativity and self-expression and contributing in the world has meant I have SO much more to give them, which means they are so much more fulfilled, which makes our family such a beautiful place to be in.
Another example. I’ve been wanting a hammock for ages. One of the things I’ve been needing more of is nourishment, and for me, a hammock is the epitome of that.
So, once I had it put up for me (yes, I’m letting myself receive support!), I’ve been using it and loving it. For example, yesterday, tired after being awake a lot of the night, and a bit out of it from the tooth infection, (and after writing, making buckwheat pancakes, and present time with each of my lovelies), they were happily doing things, and I went to lie in the hammock nearby, read a book and relaxed. It met my needs for nourishment and nurturance.
AND, in a very literal way, me giving that to myself has also been a gift to my children. Up until recently, there was loads of arguing and fighting between them. I was really fed up of it! But since I’ve been getting up early every morning and writing and making my courses, the arguing has 95% gone. AND they have been spending literally HOURS every day playing with the hammock, swinging each other, and laughing and laughing and laughing together!
For me, that was a very literal message that when I let myself be nurtured and nourished, it is the greatest gift for my children, and has a fundamental influence on them.
So, despite the tooth infection and my fear, I’m going ahead with the webinar, because I want every mother to value her needs, and for her children to experience the numerous gifts that come from that.
So, if you want to listen to your needs, to see them as nectar rather than as a nuisance, things to be nourished rather than neglected, come along and watch the webcast.
What can YOU do to nourish your needs today?
Sending you lots of love,
Marion
xxx
FREE WEBCAST: Nourish your needs (without neglecting your children).
