Why loving ourselves as mothers is a gift to our children.
We’ve come from a culture where, for a long long time, birth, mothers and mothering have not been valued.
We’ve also come from a culture where we learn, as children, to internalise judgments, guilt and shame.
No wonder as mothers we can easily feel guilty, judge ourselves, and ignore our needs.
But these experiences are all learnt from our culture.
And we CAN unlearn them and learn new ways of responding to ourselves over time.
Over the years, I’ve had clients share with me how painful it was for them as children to see their mothers ignoring their own needs, putting themselves last on the list and judging themselves.
Perhaps you had that experience as a child?
This isn’t another thing to feel guilty about as a mother.
This is an invitation. An opportunity.
For our love for our children to help us gradually change that inner self-talk and the way we respond to our needs as mothers.
I’m so passionate about this because I used to be full of self-judgment, guilt and shame, and I know how deeply painful it was.
I’m passionate about this because my experience is so different now, and so my life is completely different.
I love to help mothers change their self-relation, and increasingly replace the guilt and self-judgment and comparison with compassion and deep inner listening.
I have a training called Helping mothers develop true self love.