Hello!

How are you?

I find it amazing how our emotional lives and our children’s emotional lives are so interconnected.

I had a recent example for myself and my son.

He loved a variety of pretty much any foods until his Dad and I separated, and then his food choices got really restricted.

All this time, I’ve known that it came from a sense of powerlessness – he didn’t get to choose his Dad leaving, but he could choose to restrict his food choices. And of course there are still feelings bubbling underneath, even though I’ve helped him with lots of feelings in the past few years.

In our Attachment Play Course webcast yesterday, a mum was talking about how she was using attachment play to help her daughter, who had become restricted around food.

And I made a joke about needing game ideas for 9 years old.

 

 

And afterwards I thought a lot about it.

I know all about attachment play. I give talks on it, I run a course on it. I know how much food ‘issues’ are helped with attachment play.

And I have done some attachment play with him over this ‘issue’, but never in a really full focused way.

And I’ve known for some while, in the back of my mind, that my not really addressing this, or fully engaging with him with attachment play with this, has been because of my own experiences.

When I was 8-9, my Mum came back to Australia and I lived with just my Dad for 18 months.

I have done A LOT of therapy on this over the years!

This morning, when the alarm went off, I decided to do the Inner Loving Presence Process with myself on it.

I went back to that little 8 year old me, as she was sitting at the table. I could even remember the crockery that we had at the time – the exact pattern on the plates!

And I took my Inner Loving Mother in to go and listen to her.

My Inner Loving Mother listened to her feelings (terrified – not only because of the loss this time, but because it was also a reminder of being separated from my Mum as a newborn, for the first 5 weeks of my life).

My ILM heard her thoughts, her needs, what she wanted to say, and what she wanted to hear.

And there were tears.

 

 

And then a palpable sense of relief – of being heard, and understood, and having my ILM there with me.

And then I imagined what would be most helpful for me at the time. Would it have helped if my Dad had set a loving limit? No! Came the answer!

And then the image came of him balancing a pea on his nose!

Nonsense play with food! Aha! Yes! That’s what I could do with Sunny!

And today, I have been so connected with Sunny. We had hours of rough and tumble together, Present Time, and lying down chatting to each other whilst looking in each other’s eyes.

Again and again I am blown away by how, when we make shifts in ourselves, we are freed up to help our children.

I know that I now have lots more spaciousness around playing nonsense games around food with him.

Phew!

 

 

And this is so relevant to my Inner Loving Presence Process Course.

You can CLICK HERE or on the image below for more information.

 

 

I keep getting lovely testimonials from people who are using the ILPP.

For example,

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The most wonderful thing is, that it is, as Natalie says, such a self-guided and organic process.

People have been telling me that they are starting to have dreams about their Inner Loving Crew.

In meditations, they are meeting their Inner Best Friend or Inner Beloved for the first time.

I’m just so deeply touched to be a part of this process.

And remember, my free taster is still available too!

 

Much love to you,

Marion

xxx