Stop hitting yourself with emotional sticks that lead to guilt, shame and other emotional bruises

Stop hitting yourself with emotional sticks that lead to guilt, shame and other emotional bruises

Hello! This is for anyone who frequently judges, shoulds, have-to’s, and compares themselves. If you saw two children in a park, and one was hitting the other one with a stick, would you keep on watching? If the stick hitting was happening day in and day out, would...
How babies and children learn to repress their feelings and our choices to respond

How babies and children learn to repress their feelings and our choices to respond

Hello! I’d like to start with:   My journey with feelings and repressing feelings. I’d love to share my own journey with this over the years.  When I trained as a psychospiritual psychotherapist in the 1990’s, I learnt all about feelings and addictions and...
Three ways to help us respond effectively and empathically to hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing.

Three ways to help us respond effectively and empathically to hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing.

In this article, I’m going to start with the three reasons why it can be hard for us to respond empathically and effectively to our children when they’re hitting, biting, pushing, taking and throwing. And then I’m going to talk about 3 ways we can respond to these...