I wonder if you’ve heard of the Vesica Piscis? It’s the shape made when two circles intersect.
This is what many of us are doing right now in our parenting – we are in that Vesica Piscis; which is both an opportunity, and a challenge, as we are literally giving birth to the new paradigm.
The circle on the left is the old paradigm of humanity and parenting. The circle on the right is the new paradigm of humanity and parenting.
In the old-fashioned paradigm, when children act in non-loving ways, they are viewed as being bad or naughty, or need to be punished or rewarded to be loving, or need to be taught to be loving.
In the new paradigm, when children act in non-loving ways, they have simply disconnected from the Love that they really are, and need our help, through us providing a Loving Environment and listening to their Love-Hurts, to return to their true Loving nature.
Being in the intersection of these two paradigms is what makes parenting in these new ways so hard and challenging at times, for several reasons:
1. We grew up in the old paradigm and so we internalised those ways of thinking, which can show up when our children are doing things that we would have been shamed or guilted for.
For example, when we acted in non loving ways, we might have been told we were naughty and were punished, and so we internalised that as something wrong with us.
So we might have a recurring thought of, “there is something wrong with me,” or, “I’ve done something wrong.”
Here have the opportunity to psychospiritually reparent ourselves – which means listening to new inner dialogue, such as, “there’s nothing wrong with you and there never has been,” or, “you haven’t done anything wrong.”
2. When our child is doing something like hitting another child, we can find that our own painful feelings around how we were responded as children to show up.
This is the way our psyche is trying to heal – so we can listen lovingly to the younger parts.
3. In order to parent in these ways, we actually need the community of the new paradigm we are creating – a compassionate, understanding, supportive community who know that our true nature is love. And yet we are generally parenting within the old paradigm of nuclear families and judgment and shaming of humans and even our parenting.
Being on the leading edge of consciousness around parenting is thus going to be hard at times – because we are living on that intersection, having grown up in the old paradigm, being in a world that still believes the old paradigm, and yet aiming to respond to our children in the way of the new paradigm.
That is why I so deeply value the Inner Loving Presence Process.
Because this is where we are changing the inner dialogue that we internalised, and are reparenting our inner children.
Some Inner Loving Crew statements are: “There is nothing wrong with you and there never has been,” and, “you have never done anything wrong.” These are part of healing what many of us have internalised, which led to shame and guilt.
In the Inner Loving Presence Process, we also get to go back in a time portal and listen to how it was for us as children to be parented in the old-paradigm way, and to then re-parent our inner children in the new-paradigm way.
This is all a part of Psychospiritual Parenting.
And the Inner Loving Presence Process is a key part of that.
My Inner Loving Presence Process Course is HERE.
