In Part I, I shared the cartography of The Marion Method – the maps and models. In Part II, I’m explaining the practices and processes – the compasses of the Soul.
However, before I share about the compasses, I’m here to say that understanding the maps is actually one of the practices, because the maps offer choices about how we perceive a situation or experience; in other words, what we choose to think.
That choice can make a big and tangible difference.Choosing thoughts that we deeply resonate with, rather than thinking thoughts that we’ve been conditioned to believe can transform how we feel and the actions we take.
It’s also relevant to thoughts-feelings in the three types of feelings map, which I shared about in the Part I document, and which is also a set of practices!
Here are the rest of the practices:
THE PRACTICES for Becoming More Interconnected, Loving and Loved, Powerful and Free.
The Love and Lovingness Practices:
The Inner Loving Presence Practice
~ Tangible and specific reparenting experiences
The Inner Loving Presence Practices are when we connect with the presence of archetypal qualities of a mother, father, sibling, friend, and beloved.
These are not related to our historical mother or father (etc.), but are one of the ways that we can have reparative experiences in response to what we did receive from our actual parents, siblings, friends, and romantic partners.
This is part of the reparenting element in The Marion Method.
It’s one of the ways where harsh judgments are replaced with compassion.
It’s a way that our younger parts experience all of their feelings, needs, behaviours and adaptions being unconditionally loved.
These compassionate responses are heard externally, and are then internalised.
This work isn’t like affirmations, because if we hear inner loving phrases and reparative phrases and have painful feelings or reactions to them, part of the practice is to express those reactions and responses to the Inner Loving Presence.
What appears to be in the way is the way.
This practice can be done with someone standing in for an Inner Loving Presence, or it can be done in writing, through the two-column technique, or it can be done inside our consciousness, once we have internalised these responses.
The practices match the developmental process we go through as babies and children:
The Inner Loving Mother offers unconditional love and compassion;
The Inner Loving Father offers encouragement and safety;
The Inner Loving Sibling and Inner Best Friend offer companionship and camaraderie;
The Inner Beloved offers deep honouring, and support for our our Soul’s journey.
These practices are helpful for:
Reparenting our younger parts;
Changing our inner dialogue from judgment and coercion to compassion and encouragement;
Protecting our inner children whilst staying connected with family members.
Befriending all of our feelings and needs, which are direct routes back to our body and Soul.
The Inner Loving Presence Process
~ Going back in a time machine to experience what we would have longed for the first time around
This is where we connect with a relevant Inner Loving Presence and go back in a time machine to an experience in the past that was painful and we didn’t receive listening or repair, and this time, the younger parts of us experience being deeply heard, protected, understood, and loved.
This process is helpful for:
Tending to the source of a repeating theme so that it doesn’t need to keep repeating in the external world;
Healing the original experience that’s causing big feelings that bubble up in the present;
Reparenting the younger parts of us who experienced our needs not being met, our feelings not being heard, and our behaviour not being understood; so we increasingly experience, and are willing, for our needs to be met, our feelings to be heard, and our behaviour to be understood in the present.
Reparative Phrases
~ Receiving what we’re longing to hear
These are often antidote phrases to the painful charged phrases from our childhoods.
They can often emerge from an Inner Loving Presence Practice or The Inner Loving Presence Process.
This practice is helpful for:
Reparenting younger parts of us who longed to hear this.
Transforming harsh inner dialogue to compassionate and encouraging inner conversations.
The Soul Versions Work
~ Speaking what longs to be spoken to beings who are truly able to hear with unconditional love and true power
The Soul Versions works a deeper experience of The Inner Loving Presences work, but this time, we experience talking to the Soul Versions of our parents, partner, sibling, etc.
The Soul Versions are who that person most truly is as a unique Soul of Love and Will, without cultural conditioning or Love-Hurts and Will-Hurts.
Magic happens with these practices.
When we want to express painful feelings, but the actual people we want to express them to would react from their own conditioning or younger parts if we did, we can still heal from experiences from the past with these practices.
When we receive the empathy, understanding, and reparative phrases from the Soul Versions of people, the internal relationships change, and this often leads to change in the external relationships.
Many mentees have said to me: “My mother will never be able to give me empathy.” Then, after doing these practices, they come and say, “You’ll never guess what just happened!”
This is helpful for:
Reparative experiences with people who would react if we shared our feelings with them;
Reparative experiences with people whom we are no longer in contact with, or who have left their bodies;
Preparing for conversations with the actual person in their personality form by speaking to the Soul Version first. In this way, we can release a lot of emotional charge by expressing the big feelings and saying things however we would really like to speak them – and get clear about exactly what we do want to communicate to the other person, whilst also caring for our own younger parts.
The Tea-Pot and Tea-Cup of Love
~ When love pours in, what needs to be loved emerges
This is part of both of the above practices: knowing that when love is present, what needs to be loved reveals itself to be heard!
This is helpful for understanding why we might feel painful feelings or push away love when we receive it, even though we really want it.
Identity as Love Practice
~ Becoming who we really are
With repeated practice of the Inner Loving Presences and Soul Versions practices, we increasingly internalise compassionate responses and increasingly identify as Love.
We might then find that rather than connecting with our Inner Loving Presences or Soul Versions of people, we respond to our feelings or needs or younger parts from our identity as Love.
Our identity as Love means we can increasingly respond with unconditional love to all of our feelings, needs, younger parts, and adaptations, as well as unconditional love to those who hurt us (and with the Will-Work, also be willing to say no when we have a no!)
This is helpful for almost everything(!) and leads to a general sense of more spaciousness and freedom to feel loving and offer compassion to others, and to feel deeply connected with all beings.
The Will and Willingness Practices:
Embodied Yeses and Noes
~ Direct connections to our Soul
Reclaiming our yeses and noes is one of the most central practices in connecting with our Soul.
Growing up, knowing what we wanted – and asking for it, may have led to shame, judgment, or a lack of safety.
As an adult, knowing what we want, prefer, need, desire, or are called to is central to our Soul’s journey through the world.
Growing up in the DDC, saying no was often dangerous, or we need to hide it in order to be safe, belong, or be loved.
As adults, reclaiming our noes is actually what creates safety.
These are helpful for:
Those who have learnt to contribute to the needs of others and not understand or be safe to express their own other needs and have them met;
Creating safety if we experience a lot of fear in situations that are not dangerous in the here and now;
Feeling deeply connected with ourselves, others, and the life we create.
The Neo No
~ The incredible repellent power of a true embodied no
The Neo No is when we have a full, embodied, unwillingness for something.
It’s different to rage, anger, and other Will-related feelings, and has incredible energetic power.
Life and all elements of life respond to our Neo Noes.
This is helpful for:
When we have learnt that we weren’t safe to say no;
When we keep experiencing things we don’t want;
If we often feel scared in situations that aren’t dangerous.
The Willingness Practice
~ Honouring what we really want, and lovingly moving towards being fully willing for it: a powerful state of an embodied yes
The Willingness Practice has different varieties, including the Classic Version and the Quantum Quick version.
In both of these, we learn what is getting in the way of us being willing to have, do, or be what we really want.
This is an embodied practice which helps us know what we really want, and move towards a full-body yes, a willingness, for that – and to be deeply compassionate with ourselves when we’re not willing.
Listening to our willingness and not willingness also creates safety, as we trust the innate wisdom of our Soul.
It also helps us take responsibility, rather than blaming others and external situations when actually we are not yet willing for what we really want (without self-judgment, and without taking responsibility for what is not ours).
This is helpful for:
When we want to have, do, or be something, and we’re not receiving it, doing it, or becoming it (yet).
When something keeps appearing that is what we don’t want.
The Willingness For All Practice
~ A magical way of freeing ourselves from resentment and power-over
This is where we connect with a full-body willingness for both people, or a number of people to get their needs met.
This is helpful for:
In relationships and in parenting where our younger parts may feel powerless and move to power-over.
Everyone getting their needs met!
The Three Types of Feelings Practice
~ Knowing the true cause of each feeling, and responding at that causal level so that we live from our Soul
This is when we respond lovingly to all of our feelings, and then enquire into the cause: thoughts, needs, or the past.
Many times, we’re feeling a combination of these.
This is a really tangible practice that invites us to:
Understand what here and now needs are causing our needs-feelings, and enquire into our willingness for those to be met;
See what thoughts are causing our thoughts-feelings, and whether we are choosing those thoughts;
Tend lovingly to the younger parts who are feeling healing-feelings, and offering compassion for those feelings to be expressed and heard.
This is helpful for:
Everyone who’s grown up in the DDC and who wants to welcome feelings as a compass home to their Soul, and to a life where thoughts are chosen and compassionate, needs are welcomed and willingly met, and the feelings of younger parts are welcomed with open arms, for deep healing and repair to occur.
Language choice which helps us embody our true nature as loving, interconnected, powerful, and free Souls
~ Feeling truly spacious, loving, powerful, and free
Getting free from words of external and internal coercion, including ‘should’, ‘have to’, and ‘got to’.
Getting free from words of external and internal judgment.
Choosing words that help us feel a true sense of interconnectedness, compassion, power, and freedom in our bodies.
This is helpful for:
Anyone who has been conditioned to think in these ways by growing up in, and living in, the DDC, and who wants to be free, or free/r, from them.
Getting free from guilt and all self-judgment
~ Freeing ourselves from a core element of DDC judgment
Getting free from judging others
~ Freeing ourselves from DDC consciousness
Being unwilling to be hurt by the judgments of others
~ Truly knowing that a judgment is simply DDC conditioning and not a true expression from that person’s Soul nature
These three are also helpful for:
Anyone who has been conditioned to think in these ways by growing up in, and living in, the DDC, and who wants to be free, or freeer, from them.
Conversations with Life Practices
~ Our own personal conversation with the Cosmos.
There are a multitude of these, all of which create a deep sense of the holographic nature of reality.
All of Life is speaking through us through everything – the bird that flies past, the internet that doesn’t work, the exact diagnosis of the car, the song that runs through our mind.
Learning to listen to these and decoding them helps us receive Life’s support more clearly, and increasingly to work in collaboration with Life, or the Tao.
This works with our willingness work.
This is helpful for:
Making decisions;
Understanding repeated situations;
Understanding unusual experiences;
Making sense of what Life is inviting us to do;
Feeling a deep sense of belonging, meaning, purpose, and interconnectedness with all of life.
Creating new cultures based on our Soul nature as Love and Will, rather than on Disconnection and Domination
~ Becoming cultural change agents
As we make internal changes, our life, relationships, and work increasingly become a clear reflection of our Soul.
As we increasingly become connected with our Soul, others’s Souls, and Life, we create new cultures of Love and Will together.
This is helpful for:
People who are drawn to change DDC structures.
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MY LEARNING LINEAGE
I’m so grateful to:
Roberto Assagioli, the founder of Psychosynthesis, and Joan and Roger Evans, with whom I trained as a Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist at The London Institute of Psychosynthesis from 1992-1998 and learnt so much about the Soul, the personality, Love and Will.
Aletha Solter, the founder of Aware Parenting, from whom I learnt about, and continue to learn about, Aware Parenting, and for being an Aware Parenting instructor, from 2001, and from whom I learn so much about babies and children, and their feelings, needs, and behaviours, and trusting their innate wisdom.
Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, from whom I learnt so much about what he called Domination Systems and language, from 2002 onwards.
Philiip Golabuk, the founder of The Field Project, where I trained to be a Certified Field Project Facilitator, from 2006-2012, and learnt so much about willingness and yeses and noes.
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