Hello!

I wonder how old your child is?

I remember when my children were younger, I used to wonder how they would be when they became teenagers.

Well, my daughter is 14 now, so I am getting to see that!

And what I am learning, is that the BASIC KEY is still connection!

We were part of an impromptu experiment yesterday!

We went to go and pick up my car from a garage an hour and a half away!

The garage said that my car wasn’t ready after all, and would I mind borrowing their almost new luxury car for a couple of hours (which became all day!)

So, my daughter and I spent all day driving around in this luxury car, going for lunch, seeing new places, singing songs together, and looking at a few shops.

And we had SO MUCH fun!

 

 

Driving back home, we were cracking jokes with each other and laughing a lot.

By the evening, she lay on her bed and the three of us (my son was there by then too), were playing with our dog Feather and laughing loads!

She and I were so deeply connected.

And that was really just through spending a big long day together, being together.

And I needed a reminder from her, at the beginning, that this is what she wanted….

At first I was so excited about the car and it’s implications, and I wanted to phone friends and my Mum about it to tell them, and to share it on social media!

But she clearly said that she wanted for me to just be present with the experience, and with her, and so I put my phone away and did just that.

And it helped remind me, yet again, that often the most simple and basic thing we can do, whatever age our child (and I think it is the same for partners, friends and family too!) is spend one on one time together, being together.

And that, like in Present Time, the elements that are most important are;

Us giving our full attention to them – although I was driving for some of the time, we were constantly chatting, singing, laughing, deciding where to go;

Us giving them choice – she chose which cafe we went to, she had whatever she wanted, she asked me to stop telling other people and just be with her, and I did;

This is so on my mind at the moment because my Powerful Present Time Practice has just had another live round.

If you weren’t on it, it’s free, and you can still go through it in your own timing (click on the image below)

I have some other free things!

I made a free e-book about attachment play.

You can get it by clicking on the image below:

 

And isn’t this meme just exactly what I was talking about with my daughter!

 

 

I’m celebrating every time that we choose connection – with ourselves, and with our children!

Love,

Marion xxx