Hello!

I had a shock this week.

It was 10.30pm the night before my course started, and I happened to see an email come in saying my main website had been taken down by my host. 

If that one goes down, that means ALL 15 of my sites go down!!!

I felt so shocked. 

I got on the phone and managed to fix it all in a couple of hours.
 

But over the next few days I noticed that I was feeling flat; the usual things weren’t bringing me joy.

I went to the beach with my lovelies and our dog. It was a sunny day; the sea was turquoise. But I just felt flat.

I ate some of my favourite food; but there was no joy there either.

I walked up to the Byron lighthouse – another of my favourites, and I quite enjoyed it, but there wasn’t the usual exhilaration and delight and wonder.
 

As I was driving home, I realised that there were some feelings to attend to.

So I turned off the music.

And I listened to the feelings. I used my Inner Loving Presence Process.

I knew the feelings were bigger than the situation warranted. 
 

SO, WHAT WAS THE SITUATION REMINDING ME OF?

And of course I found it straight away – a time where I’d received news that had swept the carpet out from under my feet.

And at first I didn’t really want to go there.

But I know from experience that going there, and doing the process, brings relief.

So I did. I went in, and felt the feelings, and went through the whole process, and with each step, I felt more relief and more relief, until I could come out the other side again.
 

And afterwards it also helped me have even more empathy for my kids when they are going through something similar.

You know those times: when you’re doing something as a family that they might normally enjoy, but they are ‘grumpy’ or flat, or they don’t smile, or they talk in a ‘whiny’ voice or they just want to go home.

From our perspective, the parent’s side, it’s so easy to just wonder why they won’t choose to enjoy themselves.

But often, it isn’t as easy as that.
 

Whatever age we are, if we’re repressing emotional pain, we’re not really able to feel joy and happiness and delight.

Why is that? I believe it’s a lot about our attention.

If we are taking our attention away from our body and our feelings, because there is pain there at the surface, then our attention is not with our body and feelings.

And that means that, not only are we not feeling the pain; but we’re not able to feel the joy and delight and pleasure of that piece of chocolate or the book that we usually love.
 

It’s all about our attention and awareness.

If our attention has moved away from our body and feelings, then we are divided.

We need to bring our attention back, compassionately, to our body and feelings, in order for the feelings to be heard and released.

And really, this is the key to all the work I do with parents – both about ourselves, and about how we are with our children.

It’s all about having ways to come back to ourselves. To come home.

To yoke our attention and our body and feelings back together again.

And to know how to do that again, and again, each time we become divided.

I wonder if any of this resonates with you?

I’d love to hear if it does!