Did you know that the following are all linked:
Your capacity and comfortableness at speaking a clear and calm, “no.”
Your sense of energy and aliveness in your body;
Your ability to take action in a way that brings flow and fulfilment;
Feeling a deep willingness to have, do or be what you really want;
Taking action and experiencing synchronicities and support from Life;
Whether you coerce yourself to take action and find yourself exhausted, or experience hitches and glitches or symptoms showing up;
Whether you ‘procrastinate’ and don’t take action on the things that you really want to do;
The effects of our consciousness on our experience;
The likelihood that our child is going to be willing to cooperate with us;
Feeling frustrated or powerless;
Feeling outraged;
Using power-over with others, including our children;
Using threats or coercion or punishment;
Should and guilt;
Coercion and self-judgment.
What is the magic ingredient?
It’s WILL!
Will is part of our true nature, alongside Love.
I see them like yin and yang in the yin yang symbol.
Will is where our uniqueness and our interconnectedness meet.
We have a willingness channel, and the energy that flows through that channel is our sense of aliveness.
We all have will-needs, for agency, autonomy, choice, and the capacity to follow our yeses and honour our no’s.
Yet most of us live in a domination culture, where will-needs aren’t honoured.
As babies, children and teens, we experience our will-needs not being met and experiencing will-hurts.
We also internalise the distorted domination system – the coercion, guilt, force, and power-over.
The wonderful thing is that we come into the world capable of freeing up our willingness channel and releasing cultural conditioning around will.
We can free up our willingness channel by reclaiming our deep self-listening, honouring our agency, autonomy and choice, making friends again with our innate wisdom of knowing what is a “yes” and what is a “no” for us.
We can put down our cultural conditioning of forcing and coercing and shoulding ourselves, and come back into our innate flow of listening to what we feel called to, and coming into our willingness.
We can befriend our frustration and outrage, and release will-hurts.
We can increasingly live in a state of deep self-connection, deeply trusting our timing and working with Life in ways that keep us connected with our abundant life energy and capacity to take action.
We increasingly find, that when we act from willingness, Life is free to respond with support and synchronicities along the way.
When I first came across the concept of Will, 27 years ago, I really didn’t understand it.
My own relationship with will consisted of profound self-coercion. I could force myself into working incredibly hard.
But there was no flow or joy or true life energy. It was pure wilfulness.
For me, it was that or a terror and not taking action at all. Those were the only two options I had.
As I gradually put the pieces together for myself oner the years, I came to deeply understand our true nature as Will, and the connection with Love. I now experience so much joyful life energy, and am doing what I love in ways that I love. I experience Life deeply supporting me in following my calling.
I love supporting others to reclaim their own sacred power, that intersection of where our uniqueness and our interconnectedness live, in ways that bring a deep sense of aliveness, joy, action-taking in service of Love, and a joy in being alive.
One of the ways that I love doing that is in The Wonder of Willingness Course.
It’s one of my lowest priced courses, because I so deeply value the power of reclaiming our sacred power as women.
This weekend, I’m doing a live training in The Wonder of Willingness Course – if you’re already in the Course, you are so welcome to join in.
It’s called: Helping ourselves and our children stay connected with our sacred power through willingness work.