Hello!

How comfortable are you with joy, delight, exhilaration, ecstasy and love?

This week I discovered how comfortable I was with all of these (-:

A few days ago, my amazing mentor Jana Kingsford showed us a video she’d made.

As always, she invited us to play with it too! So I started making a video.

I LOVED doing it so much that I stayed up until midnight doing it!

A couple of hours after I’d posted it, it had had 1.4k views.

1.4k!!! (And that was just the start!)

You can watch it either on my Facebook page here,

Or on the home page of my Marion Rose site here.

Or on YouTube by clicking the image below.

 

 

Up until then, I think I’d had a meme that had been shared about 280 times (-:

And the numbers kept rising and rising.

And all these joyful feelings came.

Surprise, then exhilaration.

Then JOY.

To share something that is SO COMPLETELY an expression of my sense of purpose, and to have so many people to respond to it – oh I was LITERALLY jumping up and down with joy, and screeching with delight each time I saw the numbers climb and climb!

And then the shares started. And with the shares, words of celebration and appreciation and beauty.

I took screenshots of them all.

There are pages and pages of them.

4k, then 8k. I could literally see the numbers rising.

And my Mum joined in with the joy.

I took her to the local shops, and we had a beautiful conversation.

I told her how grateful I am now that I had the birth I did, otherwise I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing now.

And she said, “You wouldn’t understand babies the way that you do.”

It was such a touching conversation.

And when I went to pick her up, she had bought me a huge bouquet of flowers.

 

 

But then the next day, I had a headache and I felt really discombobulated.

I retreated from the screen.

I took some quiet time, which I needed.

The day after that, I felt a bit shocked and discombobulated. I didn’t really know what to do.

The views were up to 13k.

So yesterday, I reached out to my mentor.

I asked her what was going on.

And she helped me see. I’d reached my previously-known capacity for joy.

Oh WOW!

I was experiencing more ecstasy and joy and exhilaration than I was used to.

And as soon as she said it, I saw my choice.

Now, with my Inner Loving Crew with me, I DO have the capacity for more joy, more jump-up-and-down with delight for being alive, more screeching with wonder of the gratitude of getting to express what I love in the world!

So, now with the views at 17.5k, I am again feeling jump-up-and-down excited, exhilarated and grateful to be doing what I’m doing.

And the PARADOX is, this is central to my work.

And was even what I was talking about in the video.

 

 

That the way we respond to our baby and child’s feelings influences how comfortable she is with the full range of her feelings.

 

 

Why is that?

Well, whenever our child feels a feeling, she needs mirroring of that feeling.

If she is feeling sad, and we are comfortable with our own sad feelings, we will be able to be with her sad feelings.

We will mirror back to her that we are with her, that we hear her, that her sad feelings are sad but not something to be scared of.

And she will learn that sad feelings are feelings that she can comfortably feel.

It is through our capacity to be with her feelings that she learns to be with her feelings.

This is the same with her joy, her wonder, her delight, her exhilaration, and her love of life.

 

But of course, most of us aren’t comfortable with the entire range of our own feelings.

(Because of how we were mirrored when we were growing up!)

The beautiful thing is, of course, that we can increase our capacity to feel a wider range of feelings.

How do we do that?

As adults, we can do it two ways.

One is like how babies and children do it – we have someone with us who CAN be present with that feeling that we feel uncomfortable with. 

We can learn from her that that feeling, of sadness, or joy, or rage, or ecstasy, is our friend. Is safe to feel. Is part of who we are.

But as adults, we can also increase that capacity for ourselves.

Especially if we have a sense of someone like our own Inner Loving Mother, who can be with us with whatever feeling has been at the outer reaches of what we were comfortable with before.

We can choose to be in environments that support us being connected with whatever those feelings are.

I did both.

I reached out to my bestie and my mentor, and they told me that they were so happy for me to KEEP feeling delighted and joyful and ecstatic. 

AND my Inner Loving Mother came to be with me, to let me know that she LOVES my joy and delight, and that she can be with me when I gradually expand how much I can feel in my body.

And I put on my favourite music and am dancing around!

SO, I’d love to hear if any of this resonates you.

Do you notice what feelings you are uncomfortable with in yourself?

Do you notice what feelings you are uncomfortable with in your baby or child?

Would you like to expand your level of comfort with certain feelings?

And if so, how would you like to do that?

Through reaching out to someone who IS comfortable with those feelings?

Through gaining support from your own Inner Loving Crew?

Or some other way? (For example, free dancing and body work can be other ways we expand the feelings that we can be with!)

And sometimes, we can just CHOOSE to be willing to be with more!

So relevant to this, is Helena’s new video series, which is all about how we can respond to our babies so that they stay connected with the full rage of their feelings.

You can watch her video series – Helping your crying baby –HERE or by clicking the image below:

 

Much Love,

Marion

xxx