by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Control Patterns
Does your child pick their nose? What do you tell yourself is the cause and how do you feel and act when you think that? From an Aware Parenting perspective, nose picking is one of the myriad ways that children use to dissociate from uncomfortable feelings. When we...
by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Loving Limits
I wonder if you ever offer a loving limit to your child when they are throwing, taking, hitting, or being rough with the dog but they keep on trying to do it? Do you find it helpful to remember that they are not doing it deliberately and they are not enjoying it, but...
by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Loving Limits
Loving limits express a ‘no’ to a chid’s behaviour and a ‘yes’ to the feelings that are causing the behaviour. * In our behaviour and language, we are communicating both compassion AND a clear limit. We are pairing empathy, eg. I see that you’re...
by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Feelings, Tantrums
From an Aware Parenting perspective, tantrums are a natural process for children to release pent-up painful feelings, stress hormones and tension, leading to profound healing and relaxation. However, for tantrums to be healing, children need the loving and calm...
by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Connected Crying, Control Patterns, Feelings
I’m sending you lots of compassion as you read this information. Understanding this process can help us connect with painful feelings and conditioned self-judgments. I really value deep self-compassion for us all, and believe that it is through self-compassion...
by Marion Rose | Apr 20, 2022 | Aware Parenting, Feelings
Although Aware Parenting is highly complex and nuanced in practice, the philosophy is quite simple. One core element of the theory is that all children feel painful feelings. The more unmet needs, daily stress and larger trauma they have experienced, the more painful...
