Feelings are not our enemies

Feelings are not our enemies

In our culture, feelings and bodies have been demonised for centuries. Yet, feelings are not enemies. Feelings can be our most profound friends. Listening lovingly to our child’s deepest, rawest, biggest feelings can be some of the most profound experiences we...
Suppressing feelings

Suppressing feelings

Almost anything can be done to suppress feelings. However, some common ways that children can suppress feelings are: Thumb or finger sucking Nail biting or nose picking Teddy or blanket clutching Eating or drinking to suppress Screens to suppress Rather than judging...
Nose picking

Nose picking

Does your child pick their nose? What do you tell yourself is the cause and how do you feel and act when you think that? From an Aware Parenting perspective, nose picking is one of the myriad ways that children use to dissociate from uncomfortable feelings. When we...
Loving limits

Loving limits

Loving limits express a ‘no’ to a chid’s behaviour and a ‘yes’ to the feelings that are causing the behaviour. * In our behaviour and language, we are communicating both compassion AND a clear limit. We are pairing empathy, eg. I see that you’re...