Hello!

 

How are you?

 

I’ve been wanting to write for ages, but I got immersed in a new creative project (I’ll tell you more about that at the end!)

And what I’ve seen, yet again, is that my biggest sweet spots are also the places from where my desire to create and make a difference come from.

I wonder if you’ve found the same?

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One of my biggest sweet spots is being separated from my Mum.

When I was a newborn, I was put into an incubator for 5 weeks.

And when I was 8-9 years old, I was separated from my Mum for 18 months, when she was in Australia and I was in England with my dad.

Here’s a picture of me at about that age:

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(And here’s a pic of my Mum and my daughter a few months ago)

 

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And of course, when I was a teenager and young adult, I didn’t understand sweet spots.

I didn’t understand why I would often feel scared that my Mum might die.

I didn’t realise that the feelings we experience as babies and children, if not heard, keep coming up again and again to be heard and healed, whenever we are in a situation that is somehow similar to the present situation.

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When I did my Psychotherapy training in my twenties, the trainers would tell me, again and again, that I had a deep sensitivity to the feelings of babies.

My early experiences led me to a deep exploration into what babies and children need, how our early experiences affect our lives, and how we can be with babies and children so that they can live happy and fulfilled lives.

And in my own life, I am still helping those early experiences heal.

I’ve been noticing recently that I have a really big reaction if my Mum does something which I perceive as not caring for her health.

And yet again, I see that it is my old sweet spot.

My early experiences of losing her, and the grief and loss that still needs to be heard, come up whenever I think that her not caring for herself might lead to her dying sooner (she’s in her eighties now).

 

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And I had a REALLY BIG A-HA moment about it. A new piece of information.

I realised, that her not caring for herself is a sweet spot in another way.

When she was pregnant with me, she was up on a ladder. And it was straight after that that she went into premature labour (which is why I was in an incubator).

And of course I totally celebrate pregnant women being active and doing things, but my Mum had a long history of miscarriage.

I can see that there’s a part of me that believed that her not caring for herself led to us being separated. And that I’m scared of that again now.

And it also helps me see why I am so passionate about learning more and more to care for my own needs and passions, and also to support and encourage other mothers to care for themselves more.

And my passion and creativity springs from those early experiences too.

A few weeks ago, an idea came to me to create a free Introduction to Aware Parenting Course.

 

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I have a little joke about creative ideas.

It’s like they come along and say,

“Hello, I’m a creative idea. Will you play with me? Will you let me speak through you? I’m only little!”

And once we start and have got into it all, they say,

“Ha ha! Only joking! I am a big project, but I knew you wouldn’t say yes if I told you that to start with!”

So, anyway, my little Course became 5 hours of audios/videos, and then I decided I wanted to make the Evernote notes into an ebook.

I’ve never made an ebook before.

The course only took about 10 days to write, but all the recording and ebook making took a few weeks!

And I finally finished it!

So, if you want to find out more about Aware Parenting, or you want to dive deeper into it, or you want to have a resource to give to family or friends about it, the sign up page is: www.awareparentingcourses.com

 

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And another sweet spot also became a creative project.

When my daughter was 6 months old, I sat outside a mother-and-baby group in tears, because I was so longing to know more mothers who were interested in Aware Parenting.

At that moment, I had an intention that I would one day know A LOT of mothers who were into Aware Parenting.

Fast forward 14 years, and that is SO TRUE!

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8 months ago I had another one of those creative ideas, and that was to create an Aware Parenting Virtual Village – a Facebook group, plus regular audios delivered to your inbox, with a different Aware Parenting theme each month.

The early adopters have now finished their 8 months of audios and videos and notes, and so I am inviting more people to the village, and I’ve made a sale to make it more accessible.

 

One mother, Titti, recently joined, and said this:

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and one mother who joined 8 months ago, said:

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and here’s another testimonial:

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You can read more testimonials, and more about the Village, here.

 

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I wonder if you link your sweet spots to your creative impulses? If so, I’d love to hear from you!

Much Love,

Marion xxx